Fatal Errors Women make in a Relationship

Have you ever asked yourself why your relationships with men never work out, or wonder why you always seem to get dumped? If your romantic relationships with men always seem to end in disaster, then perhaps you are repeating certain unlikely behaviors. Read on to find out more about mistakes that most women make which causes men to run.

1. One of the most common mistakes women make in relationships is expecting their man to change. Nobody is perfect, and your man is going to have personality traits and habits that irk you. You either need to accept these flaws, or move on. The fundamentals of someone’s character generally remain constant. If someone decides to make a change, they generally do it for themselves rather than someone else. Never get involved with a man with the intention of turning him into the person you want him to be.

2. Resist the temptation to talk about your past relationships with other men. Talking about your exes will give your current partner the impression that you have emotional baggage. He may even think you aren’t yet over your ex. Your partner needs to feel that he is the only man who is romantically significant to you.

3. Try not to be too nosy or suspicious. For example, don’t look through his cell phone or wallet for evidence of infidelity. If your partner finds out you’ve been rummaging through his personal things, he will think you are sly and untrustworthy. Furthermore, you are likely to overreact and see signs of infidelity that are not really there.

4. Never use his past against him. Whenever you dig into a man's past, consider it a priveledge if he would answer your questions. However, this does not give you the right to use that against him because by doing so would cause a huge fracture in the relationship. Why? Because he trusted you by answering what you wanted to know and understanding that those happened before you even existed in his life. If you cannot accept him for who he was then you should not dig into matters that does not concern you. When you make this crucial mistake he may have a hard time opening up to you again with the fear that anything he says will be used against him for no abrupt reason.

5. Never try to emotionally blackmail your man into doing what you want by turning on the tears or delivering ultimatums. Your man is with you because he wants to be, and any attempt to influence his actions via emotional blackmail will only backfire. If you try to emotionally blackmail your man, he will think you are controlling, manipulative and insecure.

6. It is a very huge mistake to make yourself too available to every man in front of your partner's eyes. It may seem harmless to you whenever you post a sexy picture of yourself or one that is exposing certain parts of your body on social media but that's a big NO NO. This would give an impression that you are desperate for attention and that you are easily taken by anyone who can satisfy that need.

7. Do not expect a magical fairy tale relationship, because they do not exist. You may have fantasized about having the perfect relationship with Prince Charming when you were younger, but real life relationships just aren’t like that. If you tell yourself stories about what your relationship should be like, you’ll only be disappointed by reality.

8. Do not expect your relationship to make you feel perfectly happy and content. Expecting your romantic relationship to provide you with all the joy you want in life is wrong because it puts undue pressure on your partner. Another person cannot provide you with happiness because contentment always comes from within.

9. Do not convince yourself that the perfect romantic relationship should be effortless. Romantic relationships are hard work because they require compromise and commitment. In a good romantic relationship, both partners work hard and make sacrifices in order to accommodate the other person’s needs and opinions. Don't be too self centered thinking that only your partner should adjust to your needs.

10. Faking it, if you know what I mean. Many women lead unfulfilling sex lives because they are too shy to articulate their needs in the bedroom. It is important to find a way of letting your partner know what turns you on. If you remain silent and simply tolerate sex that you aren’t really enjoying, your partner will know that something isn’t right. Good lovers enjoy the process of making love, and they aren’t frightened to ask for what they want.

11. Do not expect your partner to take an interest in all of your actions, opinions and conversations. Your man is your romantic partner, not your girlfriend, sister or mother. If you have to resist the urge to yawn when he talks about basket ball or video games, it stands to reason that he is going to feel the same way when you discuss fashion or diets.

12. Try not to be over-analytical. For instance, suppose your man texts you every night before he goes to sleep, but one night he forgets. Do not drive yourself crazy by thinking it means that he’s losing interest in you. It probably means he fell asleep in front of the television before he had a chance to send the text message.

13. Never take him for granted. When you find a nice man who can actually treat you right or the way you deserve to be treated, the least you could do is give him a fair treatment. Good guys can actually go bad because of bad girls who can't treat them right. If you know that you can't treat him right then stop wasting time and just let him go. You don't deserve him. If the relationship continues with such negative treatment, you may end up turning him into a monster.

14. Do not give your partner the silent treatment when you are angry about something. The silent treatment is something that really annoys most men. Furthermore if you remain silent, your partner will not know what he has done wrong. If your man is not aware of his mistake, he can do nothing to correct it. The silent treatment does not solve problems; it just leads to further animosity.

15. Give importance to communication. Talk to each other. No matter how well you know and love each other, you cannot read your partner’s mind. We need to communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings that may cause confusion. Even when both of you are far from each other proper communication must be maintained. If you are coming home very late because you went out with a guy you just met, it would be nice if you can atleast inform your partner that you'd be late and why, just inform him you don't necessarily have to ask for his permission if you don't want to. Never turn off your phone just because you didn't wanna ask for his permission, as he might be worried sick waiting for you while you are out having fun. It is also NOT normal if it takes you hours to reply from his text message but when you are with him he see's that you always have that your phone in your hand. These are only some of the perfectly bad example that may cause trust issues due to mis-communication. If you also have things that are bothering you, it is best to open the topic for discussion and never demand for the resolution but compromise and meet half-way.

So far, these are the things on my list. If you have more to add feel free to comment below.

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