How Does a Good Relationship Fail?

What are the factors on how an almost perfect relationship fail? Why do most people break up? In this article we will identify the common causes of conflict and fractures in a good relationship.

There is no such thing as an intimate relationship that’s completely free of difficulties and problems. When two people share a life together there will, at least occasionally, be friction just on account of their basic differences. So long as there is willingness on the parts of both partners to work on the relationship, they can survive the conflicts that arise. But at what point does it become obvious that the struggles within a relationship outweigh any and all of its good points? When is it wisest to just let it go and not try to salvage it any longer?

A relationship has become untenable when the people involved are no longer willing to work through their issues or to commit to growing together. If even one partner gives up on the work involved, there’s really no way to move forward. That doesn’t mean that all relationships that come to that sort of stuck place necessarily end, though. Sometimes people just soldier on together after their communication has broken down and they no longer share a vision. But it would be healthier for both people involved if they knew to throw in the towel at this point.

A successful relationship demands that both people involved take personal responsibility for their part in any problems that arise. Another way that the situation can become untenable, then, is when one partner cannot or will not see the harm that he or she is causing. One example of this is alcoholics who are oblivious to how abusive they can get when they’re drinking. Another is when a partner becomes too arrogant to admit their faults and refuses to apologize. A problem that is not acknowledged can never be solved. The other person in an equation like this will, sooner or later, be left with no choice but to abandon the hopeless situation.

The most obvious kind of flawed relationship is one that has become (or always was) verbally and/ or physically abusive. There’s no constructive direction to go in such a situation except for the person on the receiving end of the abuse to get out. Those who can’t find the inner resources to leave on their own should seek help in doing so. This kind of relationship can’t be redeemed by all the love and effort in the world.

Below are also 5 Ways to Ruin a Good Relationship:

1. Violate trust.

So many relationships fall apart after a major violation in trust like excessive lies or an affair. Hurts in the present, even minor ones, can be blown out of proportion just because they remind us of major traumas in the past. Work with your partner on forgiveness and set out a plan to prevent future problems.

2. Degrade the other person. 
A sure-fire way to doom a relationship is to belittle or degrade the other person, especially if he or she is working hard to make things work. Unfortunately, many people use these forms of negative control to wield power in a relationship and don't understand how it can erode the foundation. Both partners should both protect the relationship by building up the other person's self-esteem and to always treat him or her with respect.

3. Play the Blame Game
Many people fail to take responsibility and spend lots of time blaming the other person for a relationship's shortcomings. Be proactive and work with your partner so he or she can see things from your point of view. Look for the things you can do to build a better relationship, rather than waiting for your partner to step up.

4. Fail to notice the good.
It's very easy to notice what you don’t like about a relationship, but it takes real effort to notice what you do. When you spend more time focusing on the positive parts of your relationship, you’re more likely to see an increase in positive behaviors.

5. Miscommunicate.

Not clearly understanding another person, jumping to conclusions or mind reading can all hurt a good relationship. We should take time to really listen and clarify the things other people say. Don't react to what you think someone means, ask them what they mean and then formulate a response. Due to women logic this can be a bit of a challenge for men, but they just have to accept the challenge.

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